Worth The Wait?

All the time we are hearing that good things come to those who wait. Well, I am an impatient type who is not “into” waiting for those things that I want. And yet God in all His wisdom has chosen for me to wait for some of those “good things” that I want, yes, even desire to have in my life.

I want a home and husband and children to share this home। I want to be able to say with confidence that I have done marriage the right and biblically for once in my life. And yet, these things God has chosen to have me wait for.

I don’t even dream I may know the whys of His choice for my waiting, only that He has asked me to wait. So I wait. Oh yes, there are days I stomp my feet and shake my fist toward heaven, figuratively if not literally. And I spend time crying over this missing desire in my life, but still I wait.

Some days I even ask myself, “WHY!” Why should I wait for the home God wants to give me? Why am I waiting for a husband to just drop out of the sky into my arms? Why don’t I just run out and find an adorable man off the street, “fall in love” and get married. Why indeed. This is pretty much what I have done with every relationship I have had with men, and they have all FAILED miserably. Each relationship was fraught with abuse – mental, sexual and physical – which left me very scarred and working through years of therapy.

By waiting I am allowing God to give me the husband He has chosen; which also allows Him to choose me as the best wife for my future husband.
But the question was is it worth the wait। If I can be the helpmeet designed for the man of His choosing and he the helpmeet designed for me – than yes. Each of us can do this thing called marriage the way God originally planned us to, by the Book so to speak. We can have a Christ centered relationship that will bring glory to Him and make life in this present age as close to heaven as an earthly existence can be.

Why should I, or anyone, choose to wait? Because the ultimate calling we have is to be “an helpmeet” for our husband. A person to stand beside him, and help him with the job he has to accomplish and the ministry he is called to fulfill. To be a “keeper at home” (Titus2:5). To keep the house tidy, the meals cooked and the laundry clean and mended, etc. To be a blessing in any way we can in order to be the completion of our mate and he our completion, too.

I have tried marriage 3 times and a long-term, live-in relationship; none of which was in the least fulfilling in the way the Bible describes in Proverbs 31 or in Titus 2. That biblical life is the life that I desire – literally dream about having! And though I want this relationship desperately, like yesterday would have been great; I wait – not very patiently, mind you – for His perfect timing. I long for my children to rise up and call me blessed and for my husband to sit at the city gates and sing my praises (Proverbs 31:28-29).

Anything less than His perfect choice of a mate, at His perfect time, would obviously be a less than perfect mate for me and would most likely end as every other relationship I have ever had - very badly। So why put myself through the same old misery all over again????

I would definitely say though I hate waiting, when the wait is over it will most definitely have been well worth it!
In the meantime; “Lord, help me to keep my focus on You and not the desires of my heart – no matter how pure they may seem. You are the center of my life. To please You alone should be my one true desire. All else is secondary and should not be as important to me as bringing glory to Your name and a smile to Your face.”

I LOVE YOU JESUS!!!!!

Isaiah 40:31 “But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles. They shall run and not be weary; and they shall walk and not faint.”